This is a space for the cycle-breakers, the emotional translators, the girls who grew up too fast.
This is where we unpack the weight, rewrite the roles, and reclaim what was always ours.
You don’t have to earn your rest.
You don’t need permission to begin again.
You’re not alone anymore.
The guilt eldest daughters feel after setting a boundary is often a sign of growth, not wrongdoing. It means we’re stepping outside the role(s) we were assigned, but never wanted or agreed to. These feelings of guilt are a sign we’re moving towards self-honoring choices. Our nervous systems just need a little time to catch up.
Eldest Daughters have been expected to do, give, and be more than any one human can physically, mentally, and emotionally do, give, or be. We’re not failing. We’ve been given an insurmountable task with a set of standards no human can meet. We’ve been asked to do the impossible. Recognizing this truth is the first step to releasing the patterns, behaviors, and feelings that have kept us bound for so long.
This Boundary Guilt Reset Ritual is a short, 5-minute practice you can turn to whenever guilt tries to take over. This ritual will help you: ground your body after setting a boundary; name and release the guilt you’re carrying; reframe your boundary as an act of love; and reset and return to self-trust.